A few weeks ago, I got to know Mary. We got to know each other because of having a similar problem, well, not exactly similar, but somehow related. We live thousands of kilometers away from each other, our lives are quite different, and the only things we have had to share are a little about ourselves, and a lot of music. Believe it or not, I consider her a dear friend now. When I check my mailbox, I look up for her mails, and hearing good news from her makes me happy. And sometimes, when I listen to a song, I think “I should tell Mary about this song!” It is the power of music I think: All the differences are put aside, we have a similar taste in music, and that’s enough for being friends. Aren’t we, human being, strange?
I am a very hard to get person. I have always had communication problems, I have always had a few friends, and now that I think about it, I see that almost all my friends have had similar interests in music. And the ones that I could never like, loved the kind of songs I hate.
I just found out, that I have been unconsciously, simplifying everyone (including myself) to the music they love. Strange realization, it makes me wonder, as I think I haven’t been wrong doing such simplification.
Thank you Mary, for helping me realize this.
And I just remembered, that when me and Rozita got to know each other at first, we had some similar interests in music, and some very different; As time passed, we got closer and closer to each other, and it has been a while, that we have really similar tastes. Music is such a great projection of our “Selves”. And amazingly, it doesn’t only project our ego, it projects our id, and our super-ego too. We hardly can hide ourselves when it comes to music.
I just remembered Plato’s guidelines for music education. He believed that all teenagers should learn music, but it should be stopped when they become adults, he stated that it made adult souls weaker; but wasn’t this because he thought that a strong person hides his/her feelings? In fact, considering that in modern era, we insist on expressing ourselves, one may say that a modern Plato would have stated that we should practice music till the very end of our lives!
(Listening to Anita Lane’s Lost In Music)